1. Get an STD test done - ASAP 2. I have the impression this is polygamous infidelity, this is rare, but no less an interesting case... 3. We need a list of everyone in the circle you can or have contacted and where their position is on your H's infidelity
a. Fully in favour of your H cheating on you b. Won't talk about it to either of you, wants to "stay out of it" c. Won't allow OW in their home and will not talk to OW d. OW will NEVER be allowed in their home and will NEVER talk to OW e. Openly challenges H to rebuild his marriage and END his AFFAIR
Sort of where does everyone stand on this scale a - e...
I think the facebook thing can help you, but you may need to go about this a different way...
Rather than looking openly vulnerable... why not?
1. Laugh at OW and refer to her as a "slut" who your husband is just "using" 2. Talk extensively about your sex life on face book to stir up fights between your H and OW? I am sure he's telling her he isnt' having sex with you at all 3. Don't argue with OW, just talk as if she's a foolish little tart who's being used and doesn't know it. Right now you are writing as if she's yoru equal and your husband is just enjoying the ego boost of having two women fight over him
As long as you both fight over him like a couple of cats he's not going to give her up... he's getting way too much of a kick out of it...
The problem is she may just share sexual info with YOU about her and your husband if you keep posting about your sexual status.. can you handle that?
I am just thinking if you post IN GENERAL on facebook rather than to her specifically and post all the warm positive moments in your marraige and everything your H is doing for YOU OW will read that and will get the message that she's being used... not sure... what do you think?
Right now I think your best response to OW on facebook is to IGNORE her messages to you entirely... its a LOT more demeaning to ignore her...
BUT I would keep posting all marital activity publically there so she can see that your H is making an effort in the marriage... Most women I can't imagine would pursue a man they KNOW is pursuing a marriage and lying to them about it... Most women don't want to be used like that
That's my thinking, ignore her, but keep public all marital activity, if he buys flowers, etc, post that on facebook so OW will read it... do NOT address OW directly... You want to act like she's not important...
