How do you put aside all the feelings of anger, hurt, sadness to motivate positive change in your life.
For me, I do not put the anger aside. I have learned NOT TO REACT to it, but rather RESPOND. I can also channel the energy into ACTION.
First, I recognize that I am angry. Anger is a natural emotion. If it is OK to be happy, then it is OK to be angry. I can channel that energy into setting boundaries. I can channel that energy into enforcing boundaries. I can channel that energy into moving toward a goal.
I still need to do more emotional release work. I have stuffed a lot of the sadness. The times I have intentionally triggered the tears and completely felt the sadness allow me to feel the happiness of living.
"Radical Forgiveness" is a good book to read.
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All i want to do is sleep and I cant even sleep because my brain is bombarded with negative thoughts about him, what i did wrong, what i should have done different, arguments replay in my head over and over and they won't leave. It's like as soon as I lay down to go to sleep my thoughts turn on full speed.
Been there, done that. Several choices. One choice is go see your doc about sleeping pills. Another is to do a simple mind task- Count down from 100 by 3's. This works well for me.
Turning off the brain chatter is hard, but with focus I can turn it off. Search for the "Stop sign" technique. Older posts here discuss it.
HUGS
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
