Full Immersion - Getting Acclimated

[Daybreak]

Wii,

It's probably a good idea to see what had been going on the few days prior to Memorial Day:

• Got the phone call from the painter a few days prior saying that they were going to charge an extra $350 unless we did some things to make the painting easier.
• I spent nearly six hours at the house taking down drapes, vacuuming the baseboards and carpet, sweeping and making sure everything was away from the walls.
• Getting a followup call the next day from the painter saying that his crew did not communicate to him that the walls, window sills, etc. needed to be washed as well so I bit the bullet and gave him the OK to do it for $250 more.
• Also knowing that W had only been at the old house for only a few hours in the past two months while I had put in a lot work in the yard, taking old things to recycling, etc.

So on the drive to the house I felt those negative emotions coming on. It did not help matters that it appeared that the painters had done very little as far as I could tell during the week.

The IC that I have been seeing for the past couple of years taught me that it was perfectly natural and healthy if these negative emotions appeared from time to time but that it was always my choice to decide how to deal with them. Yes I was angry and somewhat bitter but I felt it was best to allow those feelings to embrace me since I was not around anyone and that I had yardwork to distract me physically while I let those negative feelings play out. By the time I was finished a couple of hours later, my state of mind was a lot better.

I guess the process is similar to what BobbiJo is describing on her new thread. Admittedly there will be times in the future where I will be in a similar situation - but now I don't have a yard to mow...