MC tells me that by me showing WW the NC letter that I'm pushing WW away instead of pulling WW back to me.
Here's the thing: The time to ask a wayward spouse to write a no-contact letter is one of two situations:
1) They are contrite, and seemingly sincere, and asking YOU what it's going to take for you to take them back to work on the marriage; or
2) When they are CLAIMING that they are ending all contact, and you suspect they are being less than truthful, OR, you think they're sincere but might be WEAK, due to the highly addictive nature of the affair.
When it's categorically NOT used, is as a weapon to GIVE them a task to do. They have to be ready to come back.
