I was betting you would feel good after the hike!!!
Yup, you got it you do stuff for Karen and eventually he will see how much fun you are having and he will want to join the awesome woman he is married to having fun!!!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Okay, it is a crisis, but you are working on it and, like my H, he's still home. He still loves you. You are working hard to stop what doesn't work and I think you're doing a good job.
So glad you were able to hold you tongue! You know that he is probably watching you for your reaction when he brings something like that up, but you showed him a very mature, trusting, loving Karen. Yea!! You did great.
Exercise really does make a difference in how we feel. It can really be a big pick-me-up.
You seem so together when it comes to being active. I think that Pam is right. Just keep on doing what you are doing and what you want to do and H will catch on. But, it will do no good to try to push him to exercise. As far as I know, that has never worked on anybody. But, when he sees how much fun you are having, he won't want to be left behind!
I think I missed the info on your shindig. What are you having? (Being nosy here! ) Here's my .02 (which is about what it is worth) Don't worry about who's coming. Just be a knock-out in the way you look and in the way you act. Don't worry about making H proud, make Karen proud! Be confident and secure. Relax and have a good time. Keep your mouth shut and your eyes dry!! You know that you can do it.
We are having what I call our annual Post Turkey Day Bash. I used to cook dinner for everyone, but can't afford that now, so tomorrow I'm going to make app's & h has made 3 beers! We'll play darts and cards or whatever. I don't think it will be very big. Most of my friends said no-mainly b/c of work xmas parties.
Now my cousin, who I thought was coming for sure says, "we'll try to stop by." I seem to find friends who have a hard time making commitments.
We'll probably take it easy tonight since I think we got ~6" of snow today and h has been working 24/7 on cars/work/drain. I should COOK. I'm good at it, like it, and I think it is a wifely thing to do, I just never plan ahead!! **Goal** But, we also go out to eat a lot on Fridays. We'll see... as usual, I will need to prepare myself with some ideas b/c when I say what do you want to do? I will be met with "I dunno. What do you want to do?" & getting frustrated doesn't work.
Sunday my mom may have her annual post td shin-dig (did i mention that she is a copy-cat?), but she can never plan ahead...
are we noticing some resentment here?
I really am in a decent mood! I'll ttyt if not later!
ps. I'm wearing a mini-skirt tomorrow! woo-hoo! karen
Hi, How is everyone? I'm doing pretty well. Got lots of work to do today. Snow is the really pretty kind that sticks!
Last night H finished the drain. He was dissapointed because it wasn't "pretty" enough. OMG. I asked who was going to look at it (teasingly)...and gave him big hugs and told him I was proud of him, etc... We had some snuggles before din. then pigged out on chips-n-dip, leftover pizza and frozen onion rings. (this is good b/c i have not been eating enough lately) He took a bath and went to the bedroom to read. I was on the couch reading. He didn't ask me to come to bed, so I didn't for a while. I didn't have any expectations, & just wanted to give him some space and let him veg and unwind and sleep.
this morn. was good. I asked how he feels. He is still beat.
It's going to be mostly his friends tonight. I'm feeling somewhat self-conscious b/c of that. In the past I've had the party on Sunday and have welcomed children-that way more of my friends could come... well, i guess it will do me no good to feel this way, right??
must search for drill to hang blinds. wish me luck...
Have fun tonight. Look great, and be the confident person I see here!!!
Good luck with the drill. G made it look pretty easy when he hung mine, but I'm not sure how well I would have done. I would have forgotten all the measuring and marking I'm afraid to get them lined up.
Non mechanically inclinded I believe.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
OK, I had to make myself STOP to eat some waffles. The good thing is that we are re-doing our walls in the liv. room (white-washing knotty pine) so the it's all torn up, left un-done, with the trim off the windows. So it will be temporary and does not have to be perfect!
The party was a lot of fun. Earlier, he was cleaning our room and he put his wed. ring in his jewelry box. I thought he wasn't going to wear it. He hasn't been much at all lately. I have been trying not to take it personally. I think it is mostly habit b/c it is dangerous for him to wear to work and then he just forgets to put it back on. So I was getting ready thinking do I say something? do i not say something? what do i say? so i said a quick prayer.
We were then doing some finishing up on the house, he thanked me for my hard work, I thanked him. I complimented him on his appearance & he complimented me. I told him ily, he told me. (he has not been complimenting me on my appearance first.) But, I have been doing ok w/o it. I knew I was SMOKIN'!!
So, I hadn't said anything, then back in the kit. I noticed that he had it on!! yippee!! so, I decided to can my attitude.
During the party, I didn't get jealous AT ALL! Also, I mentally prepared myself as h sometimes gets cocky/a little more harsh with his joking around when he is in front of some friends/or some elements and drinking. Well, he drank a lot. His one beer ran out and they drank more of his stronger beer. There was one point where he was by me at the table and I asked if he had a kiss for me and he ignored me. Later, he started a play fight in the kit. and when noone was around I asked why he wouldn't kiss me. He told me not to give him any s##t, and I asked if he was just messing with me. He said yes, and I let it go. Ok...good...was able to not go into the pit and get out of control. (I should have kept my mouth shut, but...)
Some people didn't leave until really late. H thought he was going to be sick, but fell asleep on the bathroom floor. (I had a feeling he would) We slept very late today, went for lunch buffet. he went to his parent's, I went to church. I feel somewhat detached, but not in a bad way. I don't feel like i have expectations-i just feel fine in my own way if that makes sense. I don't feel like I NEED him to fill me up is what I guess I am trying to say.
Sounds like things went very well. Glad you didn't let yourself fall in the pit.
Quote: I don't feel like i have expectations-i just feel fine in my own way if that makes sense. I don't feel like I NEED him to fill me up is what I guess I am trying to say.
I think that is what we are striving for. Feeling that way removes the pressure from both of you.
Glad your weekend was good. I think you did an excellent job keeping your mouth shut and controlling your emotions. Keep up the good work.
Hi DB'ers, H came home grumpy last night and I got a little testy too. Then I started to cry a little b/c my rolls were burning and my quiche crust were burning. ummmpf! I was taking his mood somewhat personally even though I knew I shouldn't be. We sat on the couch & I told him he seemed grumpy. He said he was sorry, he was tired.
***WHAT??? OMG!!! It's been a loooong time since he said he was sorry for being in a bad mood! I just realized what a plus this is!! +++!!
I said that I was edgy too and that I got into a fight with my doggies too b/c they were getting their chains tangled up with each other and kept jumping on me when I was trying to untangle them and then my food was burning...and the grocery store was out of a product that I wanted AGAIN...OK, so I'm tired too...(too many jell-o shots...) so i said, "come-here," and we hugged, then ate. and gosh, he loves crust even if it is dark **sniff sniff**. I said, "i cried for nothin?" he said, "yeah." *hugs* whattaguy.
My goal for the day? I need to work on having gratitude. When Sage sent me that website for belief.net, I took the gratitude test and failed miserably. I'm too young to be a grumpy ole lady!! I feel like I walk around with so much resentment! (for co-workers, my boss, fam. members, friends, h, strangers, *myself*, etc...) I feel so angry and irritable much of the time. I know I should be more appreciative. So, any suggestions on how to be more thankful? I can list things to be thankful for:
H said he was sorry for his bad mood. H was snuggly last night in bed. H complimented my quiche. I love my doggies My head has been sooo much better! i have a secure job i have plenty of food i have a lovely, warm home i have plenty of clothes to wear i have a nice family i have lots of friends & virtual and in person I AM LOVED by many people & God. thanks for being here! karen
You know that he is probably watching you for your reaction when he brings something like that up, but you showed him a very mature, trusting, loving Karen. Yea!! 
) Here's my .02 (which is about what it is worth) Don't worry about who's coming. Just be a knock-out in the way you look and in the way you act. Don't worry about making H proud, make Karen proud! Be confident and secure. Relax and have a good time. Keep your mouth shut and your eyes dry!! 
You know that you can do it.
I asked how he feels. He is still beat. 
We slept very late today, went for lunch buffet. he went to his parent's, I went to church. I feel somewhat detached, but not in a bad way. I don't feel like i have expectations-i just feel fine in my own way if that makes sense. I don't feel like I NEED him to fill me up is what I guess I am trying to say.