Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

You're right wii. I needed to get out and have lunch. I came back and googled for articles on how to detach.

I liked this one:

http://www.orato.com/self-help/how-to-detach-with-love


"Recognize that it is "sick" and "unhealthy" to believe that you have the power or control enough to fix, correct, change, heal or rescue another person, place or thing if they do not want to get better nor see a need to change. Remember, another person can only change and get help on his or her own. You can not make a person do anything they do not want to or are ready to do on their own.

Accept personal responsibility for your own unhealthy actions, feelings and thinking and cease looking for the persons, places or things you can blame for your unhealthiness and unhappiness"


I liked the above comment but sank my heart when I read these ending comments:


You can still love the person, but need to recognize when it has become too enmeshed, dependent and unhealthy.


It's the thought that it's all over what kills me still...