Told her we need to be straight up and honest with each other throughout this whole thing, she agreed(we’ll see). But overall a few very civil conversations.
Just so you understand clearly, Opti, you are asking an ADDICT here to be HONEST with you.
Not gonna happen.
I'm also concerned that your "you need to go find it" is going to be perceived by her to be permission to have an affair. Better to say "I understand you feel you need space, but no other person can make you truly happy -- INCLUDING ME. That happiness has to come from within, and running away from your problems, and your family, isn't going to solve anything."
I'm glad her dad is putting pressure on her. Continue to be civil with her, but try to watch the "needy/grabby" stuff. Stay strong.
