Never ask a wayward spouse to make contact with their affair partner for the purpose of telling them that they can no longer have contact with their affair partner.
Nor, should you ever ACCEPT them wanting to talk to them "one last time," for "closure."
Instead, have him write a no-contact letter, the content of which is to be approved by YOU, and the letter should be mailed/delivered by you (so that nothing is added or taken away from it), followed by a thorough TRANSPARENCY PLAN (new cellphone and e-mail addresses, login/passwords provided to you, cellphone kept out in the open, etc.).
Your firm stand is good, but don't ask HIM to go deliver it to her. Have it be in the form of a letter (there are some good examples in Harley's books or on the marriage builders website).
