I've really been working hard on the @Gypsy Doctrine. Also stayed up on my flight back to Coastal City from Famous European Capital and read this collection of meditations on anger that I took from one of @Orangedog's threads: Taming the Tiger Within: Meditations on Transforming Difficult Emotions by Thich Nhat Hanh. Good stuff in there, even for (especially for?) the Grand Poobah and Head Mo-Fo In Charge of the Loyal Order of Heathen.
He compares anger to fire and promotes the idea that, instead of repressing or ignoring your anger, you should in essence drop everything else and pay very close attention to it, respect it, try to understand its source rather than lash out at the person you blame for making you angry (cf, @Gypsy Doctrine, "always be impeccable with your words"). He writes,
If your house is on fire, the most urgent thing to do is to go and try to put out the fire, not to run after the person you believe to be the arsonist...That is not the action of a wise person. You must go back and put out the fire. When you are angry, if you continue to interact with or argue with the other person, if you try to punish him or her, you are acting exactly like someone who runs after the arsonist while their home goes up in flames.
