Exposed finally,,limbo land

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Update,
So when I got home she had dinner cooking(never happens) and D2 was watching TV. After I put D2 to bed(D1 still at friends), I asked if she had thought about what we talked about last night(she was drinking last night), said yes, and started crying, I went and held her, and she said ‘I’m sorry’, about not having those feelings for me. Took her to bedroom, where she laid her head on me and cried more. I told her that we needed to be separated, and that if she thought happiness was out there somewhere, she needed to go find it, she said no one make her happy(maybe OM is dropping in popularity). She agreed we need separation, and we are trying to figure out how t do it financially.
Her dad lit her up pretty good when she picked up D2, told her she can’t dump kids on people just to see OM, and hit her hard about money and debt. Basically ‘you better have a plan to get out of debt, and take care of DD’.
Told me this morning that OM had nothing to do with our problems(her mantra) and that she was not going to be going up there to see him, and is stopping the appointments with IC up by him, so as to stay away from that area. Not believing it to much, she still called him last night, and texted him this morning. Time will tell.
We will separate when DD are out of school in 2 weeks. Agreed no funny business with bank account(we’ll see) on basis, whatever the outcome we need to work together to eliminate joint debt. Told her we need to be straight up and honest with each other throughout this whole thing, she agreed(we’ll see). But overall a few very civil conversations.