still separated, headed for D?

[WhatNow]

I clearly got the impression that something was wrong with me for being cheated on or I was coming across as someone with baggage?

I don't know- I do know I need to find a way to explain why I have an 11 month old and am separated.

So maybe just say "well we are separated and probably headed for divorce" and that is that? ANd like I have said, I won't date until I am ready.

First, I think he was rude. There's nothing wrong with you! You're a strong, lovely women! You can't control your WH!

But I do think your "we're separated and possibly headed for divorce" is better because it's vague. You're used to venting here about your situation, but you're among friends and we're all walking this unfortunate path together.

Offline it's a different story. I'd recommend playing it close to your chest until you get to know someone better.

I read on an acquaintance's Facebook page over the weekend that she and her husband had decided to divorce. "The reasons are unimportant," she wrote. "Please pray for us and the kids during this difficult time." Every single comment (30+) offered condolences, thoughts, and prayers. No details, no "dirt." All very classy --

IMHO...This guy was 'looking' for something more than friendship. Most guys hate drama and when they hear "Divorcing" or headed for divorce, they hear "drama, lots of drama coming. Run!" These guys do not know how to be friends and it is probably a clue they are not good in a R anyway. I doubt it had anything to do with why you are D and more to do with the fact it isn't over yet. Don't take anything personally from someone you have just met! It is just a reflection of themselves, not you!