G- I have a small opinion, but wouldn't presume to tell you what is or isn't what you "should" be doing wrt TM. I think it's very tempting (although strangely, I'm not...) to want to dive in with the next person- especially a kind, empathetic person- to get out of how we're feeling. Not that that's the only reason you spend time with her. Or maybe you ARE ready, I just couldn't say. I am not and have zero desire to have any kind of relationship except with my H. Only you know what's right for you right now- and as long as it doesn't hinder your progress and what you're trying to do for your life and your boys right now, then maybe it's just not worth worrying about. Sounds like you and I have something in common- worrying. I even worry that I worry too much! LOL.

And for the record, I never thought you were crazy- far from it. I wonder what makes you even mention it? confused I poured out all sorts of things on my old thread, that's what this place is for. Anyone judging anyone else is in the wrong place, you know? You seem totally sane to me. But, as a friend, I'll let you know if I start to see any of those "pre-crazy warning signs" flying off of you so you can steer clear of the crazy wink

When the men on the chessboard
Get up and tell you where to go;
And you've just had some kind of mushroom
And your mind is moving slow;
Go ask Alice...
I think she'll know.