Look at Mila’s signature line (sorry for picking on you Mila), there are many others on the boards that look like hers. In, Out, In, Out…
Just plain and simple obvious confusion.
Why can’t you see it in your own situation? Your H is doing the same thing, I want to live here, I want to live there, I want to be with you, but I don’t want to live with you…
He is making this look like you are the crazy impossible uncompromising one so that He doesn’t have to hold onto any responsibility for his actions. Especially if you do D. He doesn’t want anyone to know or think that this is his doing.
As long as you allow him to keep you spinning like this, you will keep spinning.
IF your H did not exist, where would YOU choose to live?
Get off of the crazy train. Set that as your next boundary. You don’t have to keep having these discussions with him and feeling like you are responsible for his feelings. I don’t care where your H lives, I don’t care where he wants to live…
I care what YOU want, what is the best thing for Second Chance and her kids…
Maybe it is time you started realizing and caring about the same thing. IF you H ever really becomes ready to rejoin the party, you will know that he is ready and until then…
Let him have these thoughts and let him go in circles and stand by on the side lines and just watch.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
