Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

Guys I don't know...I see what you're saying but I'm not ready to start feeling sorry for her. I've done that before and I've made it clear to her that if her expectations are not being met then she needs to speak up. She did nothing...just single handidly decided that she was done. I've tried doing a lot to keep her happy to make good memories. I'm sorry for being a human being and getting upset a handful of times over stupid sh*t that doesn't even matter but never did she come to me and said 'hey, I know we both acted childish, is there something bothering you? how can I help?' that's all I needed from her sometimes and all I got in return was a puffer-fish.

As I wrote in antler's thread...she's a narcisstic bi-polar crazy woman. She has unresovled childhood issues from when her dad abandoned her mom and she never let go of it. She probably projects her anger for her dad on me. The f'd up part about it is that she's the one who's abandoning her family.

Sorry I'm not feeling very sorry for her at this moment...I wish I could feel more angry at her so I can tell my stupid mind to shut up and move on- she's like a bad habit, she's done enough harm to all of us including herself. I can't get back those 2 or 3 years she took away from my our lives and the years to come where I'll only be with my DD half my lifetime. I'm upset that I can't do all the fun things I dreamed of, that early retirement that I was planning etc.