Arthur, the others are right, she wasn't ready and hadn't dealt with the grief etc from her divorce. Sometimes when somebody nice comes along we put that on the backburner looking for good feelings versus dealing with the "bad" ones. She may also feel guilty about having ditched you and keeps in contact due to that guilty feeling. I'm not saying she doesn't like or care for you in some way but she ditched what she probably still sees as a good man and wants to ease that guilt. So, she keeps contact, wants to be "friends" etc. You have to decide if this is OK for you. That stuff is crazymaking, I know I couldn't do it! But, you have to figure out what you need. I also think your comment about needing to learn to be alone is a biggie! I struggle with that myself and believe that when I'm happy with myself and able to be with myself then a real R will come along otherwise we just grab onto things that may not be that healthy for us just to beat lonliness. Anyway, that's my 2 cents.
