I am not kicking you out, YOU are choosing to destroy a marriage rather than to rebuild one
But she thinks that I am the one who is destroying the marriage.
She asked me how we are going to pay for an apartment for her and I said, "That's your problem and to ask the OM to pay for it. If he really cares, he will pay for it."
I do like that answer. You can also tell her, "Look, when you are my wife, fully involved and fully committed to our marriage, then you will find ME fully committed to protecting you in every possible way -- emotionally, spiritually, and financially. But when you break your vows and profess your plan to leave the marriage, I'm not going to help you financially leave us, unless a court orders me to do so. If you want to leave us and set up a place of your own, I'm certainly not going to use our family's limited finances to help you do it."
