Confused and looking for advice

[hockeymom12]

So another curve ball, I come into work to an email from H asking if I can call him, I do and leave him a message. He gets back to me an hour later, he says that he cannot get into the bank account online, this is because I got a new bank card, so I give him the information he needs, and here is the curve ball he then asks if he can start staying at the house every second weeekend with the kids, he then throws at me that if he is going to be paying for stuff still he is entitled to this and that if he wanted to throw my stuff on the front porch and lock the doors he could and it would be a fight for me to get back in, he would not do this he says he is just trying to prove a point. I was very taken aback but did not react angrily. I asked him if this was coming from his lawyer or him and he said him. He cannot go on living like he is and not seeing his kids. He wants to spend quality time with them without me around, he does not want to chit chat with me and does not want the kids to get false hope that we will get back together because that is never going to happen. I have no idea what to do. I was quite shocked because yesterday was a really good day, it almost seems like after a good day he gets freaked out and has to do something to push me. I mean I want to be accomodating however our kids do not want him to spend the night and I do not want to leave my kids but I would rather not use lawyers at this point!