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[fudwoman]

Wow - I guess there's lot of activity on here after a weekend. Mine was OK. Had an 'incident' and would love to have you all weigh in - On Sat afternoon H took D6 to a bday party. It was a drop-off so while D6 was at the party H took himself out for dinner essentially. Now I'll be honest - I always have a meal prepared for the kids but my H and I often end up eating cereal for dinner. I'm just spent on all of the meal planning + that I do. In any case, on Friday I'd eaten a late lunch so didn't make us dinner and H had cereal. So he tells me he took himself out to dinner and I was really disappointed. I say 'So this means you won't be having dinner tonight'. He gets a bit defensive and says well last night I had cereal and I didn't want that to happen again. In the meantime our two sons are buzzing around interrupting us etc. and I'm feeling really annoyed. I say well I was hoping we could have dinner tonight and he says well I never know if you're going to eat. So I say well perhaps next time you can call me. He starts getting annoyed and then he says - 'OK well if I call you can't start trying to talk me out of going out for food' and then he begins with 'In the past...' I put my hand up and he says - 'What I can't talk about the past'. Then I say something like I wish you would give me the benefit of the doubt - and then we just couldn't continue because of the kid interruptions and he said something like we can't talk about this now but he seems really annoyed about my 'benefit of the doubt' statement. I said something like I was just disappointed. In any case, I sulked and was grumpy for a while. I kept fighting with myself about wanting to keep going with the conversation. I wanted to tell him I wasn't trying to control him just felt bad that we couldn't eat together but in the end after the kids went to bed I said nothing and he (OF COURSE) didn't bring it up. Then he asked if I had any interest in exercising with him and I said yes so we did that. It just seems there is so much miscommunication between us and that he is always assuming the worst about me an my intentions. I know why - of course I have been controlling but I am working very hard and making changes. It just seems like that is besides the point.

So my questions are:
Did I do the right thing by letting it go?
What do you all think of our interaction in general?

As always, thanks for the input.
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