Go read Allen A's posts about how to present the choice. It's not you or OM; it's destroying your family vs. working to save your family. Puppy
Thanks Puppy...I realized that the choice is between our family and OM...so towards the end of the evening I reiterated that fact many times "It's either our family or OM...your choice".
No, that's NOT how you want to position it -- that's my point. Allen explains it much better than I can, but if you make this "me or the OM," you will lose that bet every time.
