With the settlement look at what really is important, what your priorities are, what is most valuable, intangible in your life. Fight for those. Perhaps it's more time with your kids to diminish the amount of estrangement. The longer it goes on (I'm guessing) the harder it is to re-establish a closer relationship. It's great that you're having lots of quality time with your son. However, girls learn how to love, what to expect in a man by how he treats them. Only you can determine how much time you want, fight for.
