E - when you say that "she is in a crisis" - does the MLCr need to admit the crisis or is it always the LBS that "names" the crisis? Sorry if this isn't an appropriate post - just new to this whole BB thing!
IB
The MLCer will not know he/she is in MLC. They know things are in turmoil and they are very unhappy and blame the spouse. You cannot explain to them as they will deny it. They have to work it out for themselves.
Always keep the forum away from your H and any books, articles or info you have. To let H see it comes across as manipulation and pursuing on your part. The info you have is to enable you to detach and let go of the rope giving your H space to heal and move along the tunnel in his own time.
