Waiting More Than a Dozen Years

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So very selfish of the spouse in this case. How can you decide that your partners needs and pain are not real and important. Even if you are not feeling up to it, this is the one you married - that on many occasions you should tend to their needs even if you don't feel it.

First, it is not clear (to me, at least) which of us you see as being selfish...me for wanting to be sexually intimate or her for refusing.

In the context of the survey, which I've had a chance to look at in more detail, it seems that the one thing that no one told me, at least, was that what women really want is a nice secure situation where they can have the trappings of a marriage without actually having the intimacy of the marriage. A form of "trophy marriage." As a young man, I certainly was never told and never imagined that the "reason" women wanted marriage was so that they could intentionally not have sex.

I know how this sounds...note the statistics seem to back this up as a plausible explanation.

The Captain