That's right. Men are something else compared to women. That's why we aren't called women!
It sounded harmless enough the way I read it. MWD does talk about testing the waters as things improve. Should he get his needs from another woman instead? He's being honourable and a good husband right, despite the past and present problems in their relationship.
I actually tried to go back and delete that part but had waited too long. I can always count on statements like that to step on some toes.
It has been a while since I read DR but as I recall...it is the WAS that tests the waters....NOT the LBS.
He was doing the same technique as saying ILY expecting something in return. LBS are told not to tell the WAS ILY. He "knew" in advance that hinting at having sex was not the right thing to do, but "he just had to do it". What I am saying is why do men go ahead and say something when the KNOW it is the wrong thing? He is acting like he had no power of what came out of his mouth and I'm saying that he did.
It sounded harmless enough to you b/c you have the same mind-set! I'm trying to help, here, and tell you guys that it is not the right thing to say to a WAW, and you are doing a lot of damange when you know not to say things like that but you go ahead and do it anyway.
The reason behind the statement I made about men is based on this same situation that I have read over & over in threads. Men know better to say or do that with a WAW, but they do it anyway.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
