Need help Busting Affair.

[elvencat]

I just realized something. Her words in the above post are word for word what my husband said to me three months ago.

"I understand that you know what you want. You are very vocal about it. Maybe you should try actually listening to and thinking about what he wants."

I wonder if that means he's said that to her, or she has said it to him so many times he believes it. I really want to tell her it's hard to know what someone really wants when he lies to his wife and OW and he continues to tell me that he "doesn't know" what he wants other than that he wants me in his life as a friend, and he cares about me, but doesn't love me.