I think this is my home for the next 6 months...

[Punktmann]

Shelbel, Wow. Just wow. In a short time, you've gotten things that take many of us years to get. Good for you!

That is not who either of us was, but that's what we had become together.

Well come good friend.

The only thing I do want is for him to be happy. The only way he is going to do that is to let him go. Really, truly and completely let him go.

Recently I had to drop the rope.... again. With children and extra-familys, it NEVER goes away.

I finally get that you can leave the door open for reconciliation without hoping for one. It's open because I can't close it. That's a far cry from keeping the door open, the light on & a big, flashing neon sign that reads, "OPEN".

There is still a bridge because you haven't burned it. That doesn't mean that anyone is actually going to cross it.

I'm not going to keep looking over my shoulder to see if he is coming across the bridge. I'm looking forward, to my life, to my future, to the person I'm becoming.

This is what everyone means when they talk about dropping the rope.

You aren't closing a door. You are deciding to move forward with your life, and your children's, REGARDLESS, walking through the door and leaving the door open.

That is what standing is about. It's about moving forward, yet still being a loving place for them to return to.

Simple, yet complicated.

Yet so simple...


However, You made mention of things like drugs and angry situations, almost abusive. Those aren't things to bring your children back into. JMHO, that is a boundary setting time.

They come FIRST in your heart, and now is the time to make that known to him...


Best,

Punkt.