reconciliation after divorce?

[any chance?]

So how do you know when it is time to give up hope?

Yes, I know patience is crucial, and I know these situations take time. I am currently NC, and have been working very hard on dropping the rope. I am working on myself and trying to end my obsession with my sitch. Some days it works, and some days it doesn't.

W is very depressed, and has been for well over a year. She has focussed on D, and that procedure will start next week when I get back from my trip. She is in denial about emotional connection with OM, who is biding his time and waiting to divorce his W until he wins over my W. Otherwise she has very little contact with anyone else. She has no interest in communicating with me, and mutual friends say that she is 'done' with me and our M. Same friends say W is thinking only of herself and is very selfish (the complete opposite of the way she used to be).

I have said this here before, and many of you may be sick of hearing it, but it is an all consuming thought: part of me thinks I should continue to GAL, be here for her when she needs me (which does not seem likely), and hope that she comes out of her depressive fog at some point, and part of me says I should listen to our mutual friends and walk away and not look back.

I am back home in four days. Need to figure out how I am going to handle this. I am planning on following the advise of Abbey, dday and others and be strong and confident, focus on myself. Just wish I knew if I should just write her our of my life forever as she seems to be doing to me.