still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Citygirl- I was not gossiping about you! I need to go back to Flowmom's thread and see what I said! I think you said I insulted you, right?

Was it "wow, Citygirl that was harsh?" I am sorry. You are right- I was not thinking of the power of my words. I think I thought it was ok to say it because if someone said "Newmama, wow, that was harsh!" when I told someone they needed to choose one plan and stick to it or something like that, (I don't remember what you told Flowmom) I would not be hurt or offended but take it as "oh, really? was I?" But you see that is ME.

So it is wrong of me to think that other people would react the same as me- and I don't even know you so I shouldn't feel like I can criticize you. I am sorry. You have mentioned this a couple of times so I can see that it did, truly, hurt your feelings! I was wrong! I will defend myself though if I feel insulted! I was just telling you that I took the unnecessary comment to be mean and self serving. I should have followed the 48 hour rule and not said anything at all.


I think you DO care about people and want to help them by breaking their false view of things. We need this. This is why I asked for other viewpoints. BUt just as it was wrong of me to say "that was harsh!" to you (please let me know what I said), I still think you should consider what you want to say and think about the point in saying it. I hope I have improved my tact since Daybyday was offended by me saying her husband was cuckoo for wanting to leave her.

It may be true, but is it hurtful more than helpful or vice versa?

I should have said "your husband will surely regret his decision one day. He is damn lucky to have you." or not said anything at all!


And I will let you have the last word if you want to respond because, seriously, I would recommend your legal services to anyone! In fact, I referred posters to you for advice several times! It's good you will get paid one day.