No of course not. I am just extremely worried about DD1 getting depressed and sad because when it is time for Mom or Dad to go it hurts her and she cries.

Just the fact in poor little mind it feels like she has 3 mommies and 1 daddy and is confusing to her, its not that I agree with foster care at all, it is the bouncing around to 3 diffrent homes.

My Bro in law today said he feels I need to go for full custody, because he would be worried since she doesnt make much money and has alot of issues she would likely have to find a man for support, and no telling what she would attract with her issues. He said he would fear for DD1.

Its a valid observation but I am still hoping for reconciliation as well. The Lawyer stuff and the money for the D is also a big concern, as full custody could run a good 10-20k if she fights it. I know she doesnt have the $$ I think I could borrow alot of it from my sister, but I also wonder that if this court case will kill any possibilty of us reconciling.

On another front, I have been GAL'ng and got a couple of phone numbers of some cute females so that really helps my confidence etc.. Also, all bills are caught up, and plans for fixing things keep trucking along.

I do still think about her a awful lot, because my friends and family talk about it. I feel like just saying I dont want to talk about it, because they all think I should not want to make it work.

Seeing how it is affecting my child, makes me feel extremely bad for my part in all this. I know down deep if she could talk she would prob ask why cant my mom and dad be there for me together.


M 36
W 29
Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months
Daughter 15 months
Bomb 4/22/10
Separated since 4/25/10
OM 6/10/10
Hopeful, but moving on