Sorry, I assumed baseball as it is summer and I didn't know football was around this time of year!
I understand you are trying to do a 180 by being more helpful to your W but IMO it seems you are rewarding very bad behavior. And honestly, the way your W carries on I doubt she will find anybody that would tolerate it for any length of time.
I am sorry to hear of your W's health problems. It is not easy living with chronic physical pain and even in a perfect marriage, enduring constant physical pain is tough. Her behavior makes a little more (but not much) sense now. Many of her problems though that really put a very dark cloud over your household have solutions yet she refuses to investigate alternative options. Not much you can do about that other than steer clear of getting sucked in to it any further than you already are.
I know you go out and do things often but as I understand it, it seems to take a good bit of prodding and pleading on your part to get her out of the house.
I guess what I am saying is ANYBODY can find "somebody" else and just because that is an available option to your W (or anybody for that matter) it doesn't mean you have to put up with her garbage so doesn't find somebody else.
