In need of guidance...

[DiamondGirl]

I read what you posted previously and one book I would recommend (keeping in mind I'm a newbie too) is "the Five Love Languages". The web site is www.5lovelanguages.com

It sounds like your H is similar to mine in that they give and give until there is nothing left of themselves. That isn't healthy and doesn't allow for you to be there in the way they need you to, because often they won't be honest with you of what they need.

Did your H say anything about where he feels the problem lies? In the blaming that many men express are truths that you need to find and work on for yourself. What were you like when things were going well? How is that different from now? These are the places you need to start for yourself and you will begin to feel better as you do.

You'll get more eloquent and knowldgeable posters along that will be able to help you more I'm sure.

In the meantime, breathe and repeat it often. It isn't over until you say it is...