The year of not my problem

[AJM]

Journaling:
Had a great weekend. Mostly. The stbx is nuts I think. She lost it when the kids didn't do what she wanted. She ended up leaving. Later I got a text telling me she was staying the night at a friends.
That just seems odd to me. Why let me know where you intend to be? You want a divorce!! Shouldn't I not care where you are going to be???
Anyway, seems odd to me, but maybe that's normal behavior for a WAS/MLC type. I've been reviewing the MLC archives. Seems she fits very well there from my perspective. Lots of changes but mostly I sense fear on her part. Fear of all kinds of things. She asks me about things with the kids as if I haven't raised them by myself for the last several years while she was "away" It's offensive, but I see it for what it is as well: fear and noticing suddenly that the kids are much more grown up than when she "left". Perhaps this is her waking up a bit..? If so, then I'm glad. I've wanted the kids to have a mother they can rely on. Tried very hard to keep her connected to them. Even at my own expense I realize. I know I could have taken them from her when she left. I know that I could say things to the kids and they would hate her. None of that is the right thing to do for the kids or her.
It hurts to watch, but it gives me time to work on me and invest in me. I need that. I can't stop what she is doing, and need to work on moving on. I can see that.
I think I'll post to the MLC forum as well though. Just to get it off my chest.

AJ