Your H failed in making you understand because he doesn't understand himself. He can't stop spinning long enough to have time to put a rational plan together. He comes up with one thing and before he can get it thought out, he's on to the next thing. In all the scenarios your H comes up with you can tell he still deep in the tunnel because they are all selfish. He is trying to have it all his way with no consequences. Would your H, pre MLC, have even thought like this much less voiced it?
Snodderly pegged it well when she said he'd be bouncing off the walls. He's like a ping pong ball on crack. I am not making fun of your H. I have nothing but compassion for him and especially for you and your children. I cannot begin to imagine what he is going through and my heart goes out to you trying to make some kind of sense of it all while trying to move forward.
