Been absent a little while. Kids still don't know, but they will soon. As part of the D settlement, I agreed to go to one C session with a C to "learn how we will tell the kids." I have already told her how SHE will tell the kids with me present. And that WILL NOT change.
To answer your 2nd question, I think she was surprised at what she could reasonably expect. Immediately after mediation, I think she switched back to immersing herself in to do lists so she doesn't have to face the consequences.
