Hi Hopeful, it's very hard being alone especially when your kids are old enough that they don't need you like they did before when younger. I've been separated 2.5 years and I know what it feels like to come home to an empty apartment when for 17 years I came home to a wife and family. You do adjust, you do your best but sometimes it gets to you! I do like your attitude re: forgiveness but it can be hard especially when you see your ex going on his merry way while you're still alone and hurting. Again, it's hard, hard, hard! I know my STBX/Ex/whatever seems to be doing just fine without me. I never wish bad things for her but sometimes...well, you know. Anyway, I say if your choice is between a M guy or an Amish guy, go Amish...you can get a romantic buggy ride out of it at least!
