Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

Now really think about what you just wrote. She came home from work and her first communication was again with the dog. She went upstairs to pout until you went up there.

When I walked in the room she was playing "family feud" on the computer lol.

Do you think if you had not put up new shelves she would have randomly made the grand gesture to remove photos from the old shelves? My guess is no, she would not have. She simply wanted a way to undermine the effort you put forth in hanging the new shelves.

Or maybe she seen the photos as an anchor...She leaves them up then that is her implying she is comfortable here and will stay. She does not want to give me that impression so she took them away.

Now what if I took down my one photo now on the the shelf and put it on my nightstand? she will ask "why did you do that?" and I will say "the shelf was intended to hold these pictures and is not being used for that purpose so I too brought my photo upstairs until I decide what will go up"

Again, shrugging her shoulders is not an acceptable form of communication when you are asked a direct question. Since your W's preferred method of communication is grunts, moans and a variety of other sounds the way to avoid having to be exposed to this is stop asking her questions you know there is no good answer to.

Another way she communicates in through the dog. She will say "<dog name> go get me something from the fridge" and I know it is intended for me.

And something that took place today... I was eating something and W ask "Are there any more of those" and I responded "I believe so, did you want any?" she mumbled "unndunnnooo" but shook her head yes.