I think you are doing great. If I were you, I'd get myself all dolled up and go out on a "separate activity" without him. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it...and I'd start doing it a few times a month or even once a week... Just go out for coffee with a friend or go shopping or whatever, but dress up! Make him wonder why you are getting all dolled up all the time...and don't say anything other than I feel better if I look better, if he asks you why you are doing this. And you might even dress a little down when you go out with him....don't get all frumped out, but just wear jeans and a nice t-shirt, and do your hair and makeup. See if he notices that you are dressing better when you go out with others....and see if it bothers him just a bit. Actions often speak louder than words. If he asks why you aren't getting all dressed up when you go places with him, just say that you feel so comfortable with him you don't feel the need to get so dressed up when you hang out with him, and then remark how glad you are that he seems to feel so comfortable with you that he doesn't feel a need to dress up either. It just might get him thinking.
