Thanks Lotus. I appreciate your comments. Our D is now just over 2 years old. We've been together for just over 3 years. I don't want to throw this away, I want to work on our marriage desperately but he has no desire (his words - not mine). So how do I work on it???
It was strange when I brought up the dating thing to him - he thought I meant we should date other people and said he didn't like that idea - of course, I meant him and I should date.
I agree this has gotten to a point of no return - in terms of him not being able to move back home right away etc etc. But one day he's will to work on things - ie counselling, dating etc and the next he "has no desire".
I'm confused. He's dropping off my D right away and I have no idea how I should act towards him. All I know is that I've got major work to do on myself and will not overlook that.
We've made it through so much with the odds against us and as he said when things are good with us - "they are on fire" - his words - not mine.
I suspect his mom is feeding him information. She's a wonderful person; however, her and I are VERY different. She is very passive in a relationship and I'm far more assertive (and honestly sometimes aggressive). She doesn't like that about me and now her son is hurting. I suspect she is telling him to let go; it's for the best; you just aren't happy; find yourself etc etc.
