Trust me, you don't want to do anything to add to their guilt. It just makes the MLCer run the opposite direction even faster.
The canned okra was a nice gesture, but keep that kind of thing to a minimum. It could be thought of as pursuing. You also want him to miss those tastes of home. He can't miss those things if he still gets them.
Most of the things will be counter intuitive to what you think you should be doing. You'll get the hang of it as you spend time on this journey.
