I need help in the biggest way. I feel so helpless

[timehealsall]

We didn't see H at all this weekend really. He was "ill" Saturday (I think his illness was a hangover but what do I know) and didn't take S5 to practice. I was like okay feel better.

He started texting me later that afternoon and started off suggesting I sell
my rings to pay our debt (his credit line and a cc that I'm on). I just said that I'd look into it because I didn't want to argue or get into it with him. He kept trying to bait me to fight but I kept my composure.

He kept going over how I hurt him. But in a civil way no name calling. He kept saying how he would have never done what He did but that he tried to snap me out of it and I never did and he just checked out. I apologized to
him and we just went back and forth.

He said that he can't be with someone who doesn't want him to succeed. I told
him that wasn't true and I brought up OW andh e kept saying that she has nothing to do with us or him and thatshe is happy with her new soon to be husband and that I should be happy to.

I was like how do you expect that to happen?

We just continued back for forth for hours really.

I want my husband back in my life. I am starting to think that I just need to back off and give him the space that he needs.

My constantly arguing with him is making him hate and not want to be with me.

I need to stop falling into old habits.

Any suggestions? Keep GAL and do 180's right?!?

Like MWD said. I have to roll up my sleeves ad realize that I'm going to have to do most of the work and that it may be unfair but that's what it is.
Xoxo to
all