I had a thread going here a few weeks ago but W found it so I had it hidden. I lost it on Monday and moved out now I think I made a big mistake. It's not a legal S should I move back in while W is out of town and risk meltdown and legal action or just wait and DB for now and see how it goes.
If you can legally live in your home I suggest you do that yes... If you are NOT legally entitled to enter the home I would suggest you steer clear until that is sorted out...
You can keep this one, I understand you want to keep under cover.
The thing is, you need some leverage here...
I am not seeing any exposure here... what friends and family members have you updated on your marriages situation and what support did you ask them for?
What about OM? Is he married? Have you exposed to OM's wife?
OMW knows and church knows but OMW has had affairs and OM is heading for D. MIL and some family on both sides know of OM. W is sympathetic to OM and they had EA for three months until I found out. W broke NC a couple times but no evidence now. W is distant and says "it over for us" she is reluctantly going to MC but doesn't want to commit.
Over the holiday weekend we had a blowup because she was unavailable for a period of 90 minutes or so and that has been a pattern. No transparence or little accountability.
ME42 WAW34 T16 M14 D11 D10 S3
02/25/10 ILYBNILWY 03/25/10 confront W about EA agrees to NC 04/05/10 W breaks NC 05/09/10 W agrees to MC and NC (again) 05/19/10 W breaks NC (again)
Are you making it clear to everyone you expose to that you ask for their suppose in encouraging your wife to rebuild her marriage rather than destroy it?
Ignore your wife's protestations of "it's over"... we have all head that crap..
They know of EA but think all this is marriage problem and not an addiction. MIL thinks I never stepped up to the plate to make W happy. They only see one side. She won't take calls from people who would be critical. I wanted to minimize exposure on her side.
I am exposing more now that the talk has turned to filing. W called and asked when o was leaving. I said I wouldn't be leaving and she said I was disrespecting her and she was going to L tomorrow.
ME42 WAW34 T16 M14 D11 D10 S3
02/25/10 ILYBNILWY 03/25/10 confront W about EA agrees to NC 04/05/10 W breaks NC 05/09/10 W agrees to MC and NC (again) 05/19/10 W breaks NC (again)
