Opti the one flaw I can see here is the way you are presenting this to her.

You are presenting her choice as

a. choose the affair
b. choose me and our family

You want to present it as

a. choose to rebuild our family
b. choose to destroy our family

This is NOT about her choosing you or OM.. THAT is suicide if you try that route... you will always LOSE...

Affairs DO destroy families... the affair won't last long term.. less than 1% of affair couples last long term.

Her choice isn't choosing OM or an affair, the only long term choices she has are :

a. choose to rebuild our family
b. choose to destroy our family

This is all she will be doing long term... the rest will die out...

As well... why on earth are you WARNING her about what you are doing and sending text messages?

Sorry, but I just find all this emailing and texting people are doing is cowardly... what happened to an old fashioned face to face conversation?

Lastly, if this DOES go to court, you do NOT want your wife dragging those text messages into that courtroom... use your head here...

If you want to confront her in public and make a scene to ruin her fun that's fine... but don't WARN her you are coming to do it...

PS : Don't try to negotiate or argue with an addict... you confront then ACT on her choices... no TALK and certainly no TEXTING

Last edited by Allen A; 06/06/10 03:03 PM.