still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Thank you Mrs. A.

Mindfull, I realize you are relieved to divorce your husband and I know that makes a world of a difference! I am happy you embrace the divorce because then it makes things much easier.

And, I am not really sure what you need to talk to your H about (RE: a divorce). Like you said you have a parenting plan in place and an asset division plan in place. You have been open, kind and more than compassionate despite his behavior. IMO all you need to do is get the paperwork, sign it and have him served. He certainly didn't bend over backwards and get your input on HIS decisions so follow suit and do what is best for you.

Well you certainly are full of opinions about how other people should live our lives! I will explain what I am talking about in about 10 days. (the divorce talk)My goodness--I know we all love to see a good argument and conflict is sooo fun to watch! But I am tired of defending why I am doing what I am and Mrs. A-- you get it. Sorry Citygirl but you haven't caused me to change my mind! I guess I now feel more confident that for me, what I have done is what I can live with. I don't feel regret and I didn't do anything that violated the kind of person I want to be.


Gatsby- you are right- if it is scary that COULD mean it is a good thing! I think I did a very good job of showing my strength on 4/28 when I spent the month before planning and preparing how to execute my response and actions. I plan to spend the next 4 weeks doing the same. If my marriage is going to end I plan to go out with a bang!