In the meantime, my heart is breaking - I had no idea I emasculated him as much as I did. I see it, but he says he has no desire to work on our marriage. Says he knows he should but he doesn't so I told him not to force that. He iether feels it or he doesn't and I want to be with someone who wants to be with me and have our family. I went along with "finalizing" everthing but after reading so much on here, I think I really screwed up and gave him the wrong message.
Yes, don't move quickly on this. Feelings are like the wind, they blow one way one day, and another way the next. You shouldn't build a life a feelings. Love IS a choice. You choose to love. Love is an action, or a series of actions, like a flowing river. Don't finalize anything. Do the dating. Practice loving actions. Practice daily choosing to love. See where it leads you. You have a new born baby who deserves a chance to have a family. Don't throw it all away now over the vagaries of feelings!
