Cause for alarm?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

OIN, a couple of examples from this morning's exchange of what I'm suggesting:

Take this morning for example...

I wake up and W is getting ready for work. W is sitting on the bed beside me...I was unsure but thought I heard rain so I ask "is it raining outside" W continues doing what she is doing and responds "uh huh" then gets up and walks away.

Try doing this as a STATEMENT, and not a question. "Sounds like it's raining outside; I needed to mow the lawn today" or "I didn't know they were calling for rain today," or whatever. You ask your wife SO many questions, trying to elicit positive exchanges with her, and I think they just annoy her and her mumbling responses only leave you frustrated.

I fall back to sleep but once again wake up just as she is walking out the bedroom to head downstairs. usually I get up to see her out the door and lock the doors behind her. Mainly because she has trouble locking them herself.

Let her see herself out if you're tired. If you're already up, then fine, but don't follow after her like a servant. When you get up, check the doors. If they need to be locked, then lock them -- no big deal. LET HER DO MORE FOR HERSELF.

I left the window open in the living room and water was splashing through the screen so I was attempting to close the window which was jammed and W asked with an attitude "did you put my keys back in my purse"

A: "Yes, I did, but you don't need to be snotty about it." If she persists with the snotty tone, refuse to engage with her and leave the room.

W then just about to walk out the door and I ask "are you going to need the umbrella?" because I know where it is and I don't think she does but either way she said "huh?" and I repeated myself and she said "no"

See above.

Then W started to walk out the door and asked that I close all the door behind her, sure why not and as I was doing so I said "bye" and W gave a soft "bye" in response.

Not bad. Maybe say something like "Yeah, don't worry, I'll get that in a minute," and try not to literally follow after her to do it.

W ran to her car and after she got in I seen her scanning through her iPod, more than likely throwing on her WAS mix.

Why are you driving yourself nuts observing her every little action? This comes SCREAMING THRU in all of your posts, and if we notice it, I guaran-damn-tee you your wife notices it and feels like you're smothering her, judging her, and watching her every little move constantly. After you said goodbye, let her go to her car unobserved, and try not to read something negative ("more than likely throwing on her WAS mix") into everything she does when you DO observe it.

As TH says above, OIN, you need to stop obsessing over your wife and do some things for YOU. You're driving yourself crazy here, and only annoying her in the process.

Puppy