my H said our M was a mistake from the start.....

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We have been married for 6 yrs and together for 9. No kids. After i discovered he was having an EA, he said our M was a mistake and if D was not possible, he wouldn't have got married.

Is there any hope for our M? We have been separated for almost 3 months.

I can't stop thinking about all the signs of my H's unhappiness, 3 mths before I discovered the EA, and how I had dismissed them. I can't stop thinking what if i had done something then, even just asking him why?

Maybe I don't really want the M either? I'm fighting really hard now, like contacting him regularly and telling him I love him even when he hasn't said it for the last 6 mths. Is this just a natural reaction for someone who's stubborn and doesn't not want to "lose"?

Just want to throw it out there - love to hear your experience, especially those who are happily divorced.