6 MONTHS IN AND FEELING A WOBBLE........

[lalxx]

Just an update really - been reading and not posting much recently, needed some time to grapple with what's going on in my life!

Back from a week's holiday in Portugal with my 2 children - my husband has been in touch every single day with texts about this and that - I have ignored them unless they are about our children. I managed to have a smashing time and relaxed and didn't over think things too much I am happy to say!

Whilst away my husband has reported my son for being on FaceBook whilst being 18 months too young to have a profile - he reported him as 'what he has done is against the rules and rules are rules.' My son had raised his own profile without my knowledge and I had discussed a way ahead with him so that he could be safe etc. I had texted my husband that we'd needed to talk about it when i got back but he knew best......

Anyway he turned up on Friday to collect our children for the weekend. I was so good I validated what he was saying 'H, I am sorry you feel that I am a bad mother....', 'H, I understand that you are disappointed about our son raising a FB profile......' - you get the picture.

It ended up with him telling me that I have one final chnace to divorce him on teh grounds of his adultery or he will sue me for divorce on the grounds of my unreasonable behaviour - I explained again that I didn't want a divorce and I felt we could still work through our issues and was here. He was angry and exasperated with me, but then sent 5 texts, 2 e-mails and a voicemail message imploring him to speak with him and for me to get real cos a divorce is happening.

My son ahs just dropped by to collecte something for a choir session eh ahs and my husband caught me at the front door and asked if I was ok (of course I am!) and said he'd be away for a week but he'd like to catch up after that to agree the way ahead as the D is happening (fine let me know when is good for you).

He has also told me he'd taken the children to see a set of friends that he hasn't seen for over a year but e-mailed them in November to put his side of the story about our separation.

So, he's on his merry go round again. I am feeling fairly well detached and quite balanced about what is going to happen next and I have my plan to deal with the process of divorce and protecting mine and children's future.

He is a stubborn man so my guess would be there is no going back for him once a divorce was final (fairly certain he wants to marry OW). Things to navigate as currently the children do not know about OW (affectionatley known as Trout Face) yet and I want to hold off sharing that knowledge with for as long as possible.

J3B - sorry I haven't been ignoring you and your post earlier - I am not a depressive person (honestly) and loads of things can change in a year - a D may or may not happen but if it does I will have given it my best shot to keep my M together. Me hitting the big five oh - nah not a problem - intend to throw a bigger party than the one for my 40th and celebrate in style!! Groundfource is alas no more but Charlie Dimmock is stilla round and Alan Titchmarsh now writes steamy novels and presents a daytime show here, like Oprah but with foliage!

thank you for listening - sorry it's such a long post but had a bit to catch up with

lalxx