You have every reason to be frightened for yourself and your family, but you have nothing to fear but fear itself. You will need to dig deep and keep your head about you because you will have to be the adult in this mess for a long time to come.
As for your h, I wouldn't be the least bit frightened for him. God will watch over him and yes, he may not have been social for a lot of the time, but that will most likely change while he is on his fact finding mission. They tend to become the opposite of what they were (mirror image). So, do not worry about him as much as you would your family.
The person in crisis tends to keep things well hidden until the lid is blown off. If someone should inquire about things, you can be brief, but honest. Do not cover for him. He will need to face the consequences of his actions.
Yes, it's time to hit the road and reconnect w/family and friends that you have not been in contact w/over the years. It's time to look out for you and muster up all of the support you can. Select one or two very good friends to talk to and that you can trust. You will need them periodically for a sounding board.
Fasten your seat belt...this is a very long and bumpy ride.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
