Again, I am so appreciative of your perspectives and experiences. I am so frightened - not only for myself and my family - but oddly enough for H as well. He is not very social a lot of time and through this entire journey he has not shared a hint of trouble with anyone. He is closest with his brother and I know BIL doesn't have a clue. The outside world will be blown away by his departure because we seem to be a great couple - we have always been best friends, very compatible, happy kids etc. I do not have family here where we live - so I know that I may need to get on the road for a while and make visits to reconnect with people who care about me.

Snodderly - your pragmatic advice is dead on! I have begun taking many of those steps. The doctor's appointment was humiliating to say the least - but she was kind and wonderful!

OP - I have "lurked" at your replies to newbies on the board before and have read several of the resources - but am anxious and grateful to have more!

Thanks so much!


M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years
Ds-24,22/S-18
D - 3/11
A Day at a Time