Hi! I shared the list with him (on email). Told him it was all informal, just a way of starting to get some ideas on the table. Very glad you all think they are reasonable and pointing out which ones to not to be flexible with. I agree NM that # 1 is the one he won't be able to do.
Did I also mention the friends he is staying with have had a talk with him and they've mutually agreed he's to move on? They were keeping him there until the birth... Now he's going to live 1.5hrs out of town with this couple's father (he went once before). I told him he could live in the apartment for a month or two and I would continue to stay with my mum - was even willing to clear my clothes out. He flatly refused, said it's 'my space'. I said, it's a neutral space, your brother is living there, your mother is about to come..you could all live there. TOTALLY NOT INTERESTED. I said 'I'm not trying to trap you; I'm trying to come up with sensible financially-responsible housing situations'. Didn't budge. Probably doesn't want a reminder of our past, and doesn't want to be disloayal to other woman. So WH is off the countryside - so convenient for being free and going somewhere where noone is going to tell him what to do. And he can conduct his affair happily from there also.
