What does this mean?- the WH's regrets?

[gatsby11]

Ha ha! I still really need to go to bed. I get very silly when I'm tired. Obviously.

Most of the things on that list I don't really need ('cause I got 'em today, HA) except the crib. My grandma is going to buy me one, and I'm going to find the right one over the summer. I have a co-sleeper mini bassinett for the beginning. My apt is so small I kinda can't have both!

But yeah he should totally put it together when it gets here.

damn OWs. Why are they everywhere? Can I no longer trust my fellow sisters? What happened to the code?

I know! They're WEAK. And not just the OWs but the men who go for them! In a "me" culture, this is what you see, I guess. Also, though, affairs are more public now than in the past. Both my grandmas told me their husbands had affairs, but you just stayed together since it was a different culture. You just didn't say anything. And the men stayed at home to maintain status quo. Now it's different!

K, now a true goodnight. I'll post on your page tomorrow mornin, NM! I saw more action over there but my coherence is waning. . .

[Piano]

I could write back. "Yes: hemorrhoid cream, lanolin for nipples, a supportive bra, and a crib."

I think you've got yourself a good list here, G! . Sadly, I am not joking!

[Piano]

He wanted to "check in" to see how the baby and I are doing. He also said he got a coupon to Babies R Us and wanted to know if I needed anything.

Funny how our WH's start to check in and want to buy things in the last few of the pregnancy. When everything has been done!

I BET you my life he won't go on that camping trip, G. That's just 'talk', maybe wishful escapist thinking. Ignore it.

[gatsby11]

Geez. I should just get that hemorrhoid cream now. Ugh, can't wait for this little phase to be over. All for my little girl. . .

So-- not getting into it much. But I've been dealing with other family issues (ahem, mom) the past two days. Lots of tears. That have nothing to do with WH! In fact, I'm somewhat grateful (and resentful at the same time, don't get me wrong) that I am facing my mom all by myself. It's very good for me. So this is the drama that's in my head right now.

And WH writes to ask if he can buy me something? Please, he is so out of it. He knows nothing about me, as he shouldn't.

The other thing about the camping trip is that he wants to go with SIL's H! Now HE is someone I kind of am counting on. So I feel like saying "WH, whatever. But SIL's H needs to be in town for me." We'll see how it goes. . .

[newmama]

Gatsby will your mom be a support to you when your baby is born?

[gatsby11]

Hey NM. I hope. But sometimes being with her is more of a challenge to overcome. I will be practicing setting boundaries and sticking to them.

[newmama]

I hear you, Gatsby! So who will be there to support you with your baby girl? I mean at the birth and then when you bring her home?

[gatsby11]

Yeah, family.

At the birth I will have a friend from work (sort of a supervisor, although she's done with that role now!), and SIL. If the birth happens after the 11th, my mom will be there too. The trick is that I actually don't want that. But I don't have the heart to say no mostly because I said yes back in March. In March, I was allowing the whole world in the room. I was like, "WH won't be there, so everyone will!" As it got closer, though, I realized that I only wanted my friend and SIL. And it seems like too much to take it back from my mom.

My mom will be with me for the first week, along with my dad and sister and probably SIL from time to time. And I'll invite other friends over too.

After the first week MIL is coming in and staying with me for a few nights.

My mom wants to stay in town for the whole summer. I told her she couldn't stay with me. She's starting to try to guilt trip me about it, but I feel no guilt.

So, the drama continues. I will be so happy for a drama-low life, hopefully starting in the fall!

Oh and also I have a massage and pedicure today, so friggin excited. I'm going to have them push the certain pressure points. Yay! Natural induction, awww yeah.

[newmama]

I have heard good things about using massage to induce naturally!
Why not have some spicy food for lunch as well and then go for a 3 mile walk? Seriously, though, massage is definitely more of the "proven" method!

Wow--you are sooooo wise to not have your mom stay with you!!! Good for you! NO GUILT!

About drama- haha! I, too, have always aimed for a drama free life because I had enough of it growing up! I am doing my best to minimize drama in my S life so he has one parent who is stable, lol!!!

[Lotus]

My father arrived at the airport just before the birth of my daughter, and since my husband had to pick him up, he brought him to the hospital. So my father witnessed my daughter's birth. Of course, my Mom was jealous and felt left out, since she had been at my house, babysitting my oldest. So, when the 3rd child was born, I let my Mom witness the birth. Honestly, I don't even remember her being there anymore. But it made her happy. I can say this for sure, now that I see how my grown children feel about me, I am a lot more sympathetic toward my Mom. I'm glad I let her in the delivery room because it meant a lot to her.